Check Your Conflict Assumptions

Each January I quietly sit awhile and set my relationships intentions for the year ahead, in both my professional and personal life. What are the challenges I want to explore to deepen my understanding, to be more flexible and less reactive, and how could I practice a...

5 Principals for No Fault Discussions

You can create more peace in every conversation you have. Too often fault and blame about the past gets in the way of successfully resolving conflicts, especially when there is a lot of emotion involved. Here are five tips to reduce the risk of failing in difficult...

Reading the Slouch – Part 2

When I published ‘Reading the Slouch’ in April this year, I was overwhelmed by the responses I received from my readers. That article explored the subtle tactics in a controlling relationship and introduced Matt and Claire. So many emails saying “Thank you. I know...

Private: Great Sex is all about Listening

I want to talk to you about making love. Not sex but making love happen, in the small and important moments together, so that even when you’re having a difficult discussion or disagreement, you know how to make love happen between you. There is an art and a science to...

5 Sure-Fire Tips to Insure Your Marriage

What are the secrets to lasting relationship success? The secret is 6 hours a week. Happy couples consciously devote 6 hours per week to looking after their relationship. It’s like an insurance package for your happiness as a couple. This is how you look after your...

Gottman Method Couples Therapy

The Gottman Method Couples Therapy for Healthy Relationships There’s science and art to creating strong, satisfying and lasting relationships. Dr John Gottman’s ground-breaking research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn...