Many narcissist managers are often under-performers who use distraction, obfuscation and drama to keep up the façade of their importance and hide their deficits.
Jules is a late-30s Senior Manager working on a significant national project, amidst the usual amount of corporate change. The latest restructure process has consolidated a destructive management configuration. One that unfortunately seems to be on the rise. Jules feeling like she’s juggling spinning chainsaws. If there’s to be blood spilt, she’s fearful it will be hers.
There are some behaviours that can initially confuse or distract you from recognising a controlling person. Tactics that trip you up.
Keep your observation objective, remain curious and manage your connection during conflict situations with difficult and controlling people. These 3 skills are the foundations for confidence in highly challenging relationships.
Domineering, demanding, difficult, short–fuse, Drama Queen/King… All words often used to describe someone whose comments, behaviour and attitudes can make your working life hell.
Controlling people have a sense of entitlement. These are people, who despite their complaints, are not really interested in resolving problems or finding solutions.