by Elizabeth Williamson | 16 Dec, 2023
There is lots of potential for conflict over the Christmas period: the pressures of getting it right on the day, stressed relatives, heightened emotions and managing a diary full of work, business and family events.
by Elizabeth Williamson | 24 Jan, 2022
We humans sometimes learn wisdom through a fair bit of stupidity. We all have irrational assumptions about how we see conflicts play out, based on the stories we tell ourselves. We often learnt these assumptions and created these stories during our childhood, which means there is also likely to be immature emotions and needs underlying these stories.
by Elizabeth Williamson | 15 Mar, 2020
When there’s potential for tension and heightened emotions research shows what you do in the first 3 minutes is vital. If you start a conversation with criticism or harshness, then add defensiveness and blame, the likelihood of escalating conflicts and wanting to withdraw from the relationship are predictable outcomes.
by Elizabeth Williamson | 24 Sep, 2018
When I published ‘Reading the Slouch’ in April this year, I was overwhelmed by the responses I received from my readers. That article explored the subtle tactics in a controlling relationship and introduced Matt and Claire. So many emails saying “Thank you. I know...
by Elizabeth Williamson | 30 Aug, 2018
When a family breaks up it is an anxious time for any parent. Your children are also going through difficult experiences, often without the language or emotional skills to explain what they need.
by Elizabeth Williamson | 14 Mar, 2018
There are some behaviours that can initially confuse or distract you from recognising a controlling person. Tactics that trip you up.
by Elizabeth Williamson | 27 Jul, 2017
The Gottman Method Couples Therapy for Healthy Relationships There’s science and art to creating strong, satisfying and lasting relationships. Dr John Gottman’s ground-breaking research shows that to make a relationship last, couples must become better friends, learn...