Keeping Your Cool this Christmas!
There is lots of potential for conflict over the Christmas period: the pressures of getting it right on the day, stressed relatives, heightened emotions and managing a diary full of work, business and family events.
Check Your Conflict Assumptions
We humans sometimes learn wisdom through a fair bit of stupidity. We all have irrational assumptions about how we see conflicts play out, based on the stories we tell ourselves. We often learnt these assumptions and created these stories during our childhood, which means there is also likely to be immature emotions and needs underlying these stories.
The First 3 Minutes of Difficult Conversations Predict the Outcome
When there’s potential for tension and heightened emotions research shows what you do in the first 3 minutes is vital. If you start a conversation with criticism or harshness, then add defensiveness and blame, the likelihood of escalating conflicts and wanting to withdraw from the relationship are predictable outcomes.
Reading the Slouch – Part 2
When I published ‘Reading the Slouch’ in April this year, I was overwhelmed by the responses I received from my readers. That article explored the subtle tactics in a controlling relationship and introduced Matt and Claire. So many emails saying “Thank you. I know...
5 Top Tips to Cure Office Conflicts
Workplace conflicts steal your energy and motivation at the office. Not to mention the additional stress you take home, the restless nights, lost sleep and negative impacts on your overall health and well-being. Business excellence requires recognising conflict risks...
Tactics that Trip You Up: Reading the Slouch
There are some behaviours that can initially confuse or distract you from recognising a controlling person. Tactics that trip you up.
5 Sure-Fire Tips to Insure Your Marriage
What are the secrets to lasting relationship success? The secret is 6 hours a week. Happy couples consciously devote 6 hours per week to looking after their relationship. It’s like an insurance package for your happiness as a couple. This is how you look after your...