Many narcissist managers are often under-performers who use distraction, obfuscation and drama to keep up the façade of their importance and hide their deficits.
Jules is a late-30s Senior Manager working on a significant national project, amidst the usual amount of corporate change. The latest restructure process has consolidated a destructive management configuration. One that unfortunately seems to be on the rise. Jules feeling like she’s juggling spinning chainsaws. If there’s to be blood spilt, she’s fearful it will be hers.
Keep your observation objective, remain curious and manage your connection during conflict situations with difficult and controlling people. These 3 skills are the foundations for confidence in highly challenging relationships.
Domineering, demanding, difficult, short–fuse, Drama Queen/King… All words often used to describe someone whose comments, behaviour and attitudes can make your working life hell.
Controlling people have a sense of entitlement. These are people, who despite their complaints, are not really interested in resolving problems or finding solutions.
Dr. John Gottman, renowned researcher in to couple relationships and parenting has recently published a long awaited book: The Man’s Guide to Women. For over 40 years, Dr. John Gottman has been leading cutting edge research into what couple actually do in successful and unsuccessful relationship. I have the privilege of studying with Drs. John and Julie Gottman over several years.
Workplace conflicts steal your energy and motivation at the office. Not to mention the additional stress you take home and negative impacts on your overall health and well-being. Business savvy requires recognising conflict risks early and being prepared to embrace difficult situations. Published by Business Woman Media 6/04/2017.
“Resilience is managing balance: between your stress and fear, and finding your creativity and determination. It’s really important that we give ourselves time for the difficult feelings when you’re faced with an ongoing difficulty, or a challenge that sometimes feels insurmountable. ”